It is difficult, very difficult. For instance, I have both my wife and daughter have heard me discuss how Rutherford tried to compromise with Hitler, they know that I feel that the blood doctrine as the society defines it is contradictory and not biblically based. They also know how I feel about the problem that the Watchtower has had with pedophiles.
Now my wife is bringing my daughter to the disctrict assembly. Saturday afternoon my daughter will hear a hate filled talk that describes those very issues and calls people who do not believe as they do apostates. My wife and daughter will hear someone whom they belive is part of sole channel of communication from God say I am part of the "seed of Satan" that I am part of the antichrist. I am not nuts about my daughter spending Saturday afternoon hearing someone she respects saying that her father is a lyer and to stay away from him.
Thing is I have successfully faded, I am not DF'd, and I do honestly still belive in both God and Jesus. I do still belive in a earthly kingdom, I don't belive in eternal torment of hell either. However I believe the FDS is a parable not a prophecy and I do not accept these self proclaimed leaders.
Problem is my daughter has a lot of really nice friends in the hall. They are good kids. Honestly better than most others that I personally know. She is not baptized (or even an unbaptized publisher yet) but her social ties are STRONG. Also she is like I was at her age. If I forbid her from going to the hall, nothing could stop her. My wife is totally under influence of the mind control techniques that the organization uses so there is no way to reach her. Any logical argument has no chance. Proof from old Watchtowers means nothing. Her cognitive dissonence is very strong. If I say anything she gets really upset, so I try not to rock the boat.
What that leads to is a very superficial relationship between my wife and myself and to a lesser extent my daughter. I see our marriage on a downward slide. I am not giving up however. One of the things I always treasured in my marrage is that my wife and I always had good communication. TTATT has taken that away. Now we are just going through the motions and I HATE it.
It's not like I am trying to stop her from going to the hall, I just wish she would discuss these issues with me on an adult level, but that will not happen.
I told her if she would prove to me that the men who claim to be the faithful slave really were who they say they are I would forget all my other issues and come back to the meetings on a regular basis. Problem is I told her this over a year ago and she has not even (to my knowledge) done any research or made any attempt to prove it. Never the less that does not stop her from taking my daugher to the meetings to hear how bad of a person her father is. Of course she is never irregular in service either. I have told both of them any Saturday they want to talk to someone about the bible they have an interested person in the house (me), but they would rather go put in "time" going door to door and leave me to be bird food. Honestly that does piss me off.
The other problem is that we can not have a family study because there is so much I disagree with. I tried having a study just reading directly from Romans and Galations but I can't seem to get through one chapter without making both of them mad at me.
It sucks all around.